Hope Rides Alone

*hughughug*

(Hey, try and watch the latest NC vid! Pay attention to number nine especially. I do believe it will cheer you up. :)

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Thank you so much for the hugs, again.

(Hee, personally I don't think it's a BAD thing that he had residual eyeliner on during that review ... not a bad thing at all ... mmmmmm ...
Also "do my fans just have multiple personality disorder?" Er ... well, some people speculate that YOU do, Doug, but I dunno about the rest of us ...
It is slightly comforting that we get to see how he view his hardcore fanboys, though. Surely he'd feel a teensy bit sympathetic if they came to burn us at the stake for writing fanfics? Maybe?
POOR MIKE! *huggles him*)

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Thank you so much for the hugs, again.

Any time, hon. :)

Hee, personally I don't think it's a BAD thing that he had residual eyeliner on during that review ... not a bad thing at all ... mmmmmm ...

Yeah, I was pretty much all "Wait, that's a fuckup now?" Part of me wants to e-mail in to point this out, but that's closer contact than I'm comfortable with, heh. Also, it would just spawn more "OMG you people cannot be pleased" flailing, I suspect. Speaking of which ...

Also "do my fans just have multiple personality disorder?"

Well, his audience does technically kind of have multiple personality disorder, consisting as it does of a lot of different people, heh.

Also, said audience consists of a bunch of different groups of people, too. There's the hardcore nitpicking fanboys (*hides*), us possibly slightly unstable fangirls, the large group of "normal" people, ...

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Also, it would just spawn more "OMG you people cannot be pleased" flailing, I suspect.

Actually, after having seen the video and read the comments, most people are either saying they didn't notice or thought he looked good so you wouldn't be the only one. But really, you've got to be a very sad fanboy to send hatemail over eyeliner. (Plus, part of me wants to see this "goth dragshow".)

us possibly slightly unstable fangirls

We're unstable? Honey, compared to some people, we're pretty damn low on the creepy scales for this fandom. ;)

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Actually, after having seen the video and read the comments, most people are either saying they didn't notice or thought he looked good so you wouldn't be the only one. But really, you've got to be a very sad fanboy to send hatemail over eyeliner. (Plus, part of me wants to see this "goth dragshow".)

Unf, yes. (RHPS! RHPS!)

We're unstable? Honey, compared to some people, we're pretty damn low on the creepy scales for this fandom. ;)

Actually, good point. At least I'm not sending nitpicky e-mails or anything. (I honestly hadn't even noticed the spelling mistakes, for example.)

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I really wouldn't mind a Goth Dragshow Nostalgia Critic episode ... oh god, what if he reviewed RHPS?! *passes out* He'd totally squirt a watergun and throw rice and newspapers ... and dress up.

I don't notice the spelling mistakes because I'm a terrible speller. I love spellcheck. Sometimes I spell something wrong, spellcheck it, and then remember the word. Hence I can now spell 'Australia' unprompted. HURRAH!

(Your icon is MADE OF WIN!)

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I really wouldn't mind a Goth Dragshow Nostalgia Critic episode ... oh god, what if he reviewed RHPS?! *passes out* He'd totally squirt a watergun and throw rice and newspapers ... and dress up.

I was going to suggest the Critic and the Chick team up for the review, but then it occurred to me this would be an awesome thing for the whole site to do for their second anniversary or something. :D

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I was going to suggest the Critic and the Chick team up for the review

*imagines the Nostalgia Chick in a Magenta costume and is very pleased :D* You know they're going to have to do it eventually, just like the Critic is going to have to break down and finally review Doug's First Movie. :P

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You know they're going to have to do it eventually, just like the Critic is going to have to break down and finally review Doug's First Movie. :P

Sooner or later, we'll wear them down. :D Although, wrt the latter, I'm kind of surprised Rob hasn't yet just tied Doug down and forced him to review the movie. I mean, surely such torment is what older siblings are for, no?

(I am an aweful, evil sister. Evil. Hee hee.)

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I fear for YOUR siblings.
Again, SO GLAD I'm an only child ...

Although, wrt the latter, I'm kind of surprised Rob hasn't yet just tied Doug down and forced him to review the movie. I mean, surely such torment is what older siblings are for, no?
I'm waaaaaaaay too amused by that mental image. Mostly because I want more Rob onscreen. Because he is awesome. And also has a bitchin' singing voice.

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I fear for YOUR siblings.

The trick is to train them while they're young. If they never know any better, they don't mind, really. ;D

(And by "train", I mean, especially with my baby brother, "spoil like mad", but whatever.)

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Ah, ok then ...
Still glad I'm an only child, though.

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... *jawdrop* Oh, she would ROCK that outfit ...

Hee hee hee ... I vaguely remember seeing Doug's First Movie. Very weird ... then again, I did watch the show back in the day. I remember kinda liking it.
Then again, I didn't make the connection from the show and the man upon learning Doug Walker's name, so ... I guess it didn't make that much of an impression on me?

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... *jawdrop* Oh, she would ROCK that outfit ...

And we know from the "Hocus Pocus" review that she looks yummy in gothy make-up so... more please? ;)

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Seconded!

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Oh my GOD ... if that's what they do for their 2-year anniversary (or just part of the anniversary, and do other things as well) I might die of laughter for real.

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I was thinking "hot" more than "funny," but then I imagined AngryJoe in fishnets. I'm ... not sure how I feel about that mental image. My brain is a scary place. D:

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freya-sacksen.livejournal.com

It says something wrong about me that I actually really enjoy that image...

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At least I'm not sending nitpicky e-mails or anything

And I still think complaining over Optimus Prime and also what was supposed to be his scariest moment is completely missing the point.

Honestly, I only really noticed when he spelt "Nostalgia" wrong in his "We're Back" review and I found that more hysterical than annoying. ;)

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I admit, I noticed the one at the end of A Kid In King Arthur's Court, and was more amused than anything -- yeah, I half assumed it was deliberate. He should've just gone with that, really. :D

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For ANY fandom, this is the nicest, tamest, funniest one I've found yet, and I'm involved in a LOT Of fandoms *points to my OTP list on the sidebar*

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Any time, hon. :)
You have no idea how much that means to me. Really. I mean, I have real-life friends, but sometimes it's hard to get a hold of them. Or they don't understand why I'm upset over a Doctor Who Episode.

I think he should wear smudged eyeliner in MORE of his reviews! Let's start a petition!

Yeah, I think that it's mostly more GROUPS of people within the fandom. Us insane fangirls (subcategory: The Musketeers of TGWTG), crazed fanboys (subcategory: nitpicking Emo Jones/AVGN lovechildren), and many, many more besides.

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I think he should wear smudged eyeliner in MORE of his reviews! Let's start a petition!

But that would mean coming out of hiding even a little! D: *hides like a bunny rabbit*

("Lalala I am a brave fan, honest I am OMG TPTB!")

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We can come out of 'hiding.' I keep meaning to get an account on TGWTG so I can comment, but I keep forgetting to or having to do more things instead.

(Don't be scared. So long as we don't squeal 'HO-YAY!' in every comment, we should be fine. We're all fans, we ought to be able to comment on the vids in safety. I'm going to use my actual username. Then again, I am masochistic on the internet.
Seriously, though, saying that you think he looks cute in eyeliner? Probably not the scariest thing he's ever heard.)

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We can come out of 'hiding.' I keep meaning to get an account on TGWTG so I can comment, but I keep forgetting to or having to do more things instead.

See, I tend to avoid comments on large websites anyway (there's always, inevitably, going to be that one commenter who insists on being an asshat and upsetting me), and in this case there's the added issue of trying to keep the people and their "characters" as seperate as possible. On the other hand, here I am with my fics unlocked and ,em>under my real name, so clearly I'm not exactly consistent, here. :D

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Seriously, though, saying that you think he looks cute in eyeliner? Probably not the scariest thing he's ever heard.

How dare you suggest such a thing? Castration threats, general hatemail, Nostalgia Chick fanboys calling him a misogynist because they fought on the Ferngully review... they mean nothing compared to being called cute when he wears eyeliner! ;)

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prettyarbitrary.livejournal.com

Oh man. *big ol' hugs* again!

It's so weird. I've met some people who are completely nice and awesome except that they're prejudiced. It really short-circuits the brain. What am I supposed to think when you spend time feeding the homeless and giving to charity and going out of your way for your friends, but you have an irrational hate-on for blacks/gays/women/whatever?

*sigh* Some of these people are idiots. Some of them are bad. But most of them are just people. This stuff is in the air. Pop culture tells us blacks and latinos are gonna break into your house and steal your stereo or sell your kids drugs. It tells us women are going to crazy up your life and trap you into marriage, and men are going to try to rape you. It tells us homosexuals are acceptable as comedy relief but creepy otherwise.

Just like teenage girls who get hurt because they're confused about their body image, it's nobody's fault for being unable to ignore this stuff they're bombarded with. We all have to try to overcome it and help others realize it's happening so they can try to fight it too. I know it's weird and painful and unfair to know that people around you have a problem with the way you or people you love just are. But there are degrees: there are the people who won't learn, and there are the people who can and want to.

You can think of it like smoking. We get caught up into these bad habits often without realizing what's going on until it's too late, and then we have to struggle to quit, to root out these patterns that get set into our minds. Your friend sounds like he's trying. He wants to be fair about laws, he's trying to be okay around your dad, and I doubt he'd ever be okay with seeing people hurt because of their orientation. Find out if he can be better, find out if he wants to be better, and if so, then maybe you or at least someone can help him over this problem.

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Oh man. *big ol' hugs* again!
Thank you, again! *hugs you back*

*sigh* Some of these people are idiots. Some of them are bad. But most of them are just people. This stuff is in the air. Pop culture tells us blacks and latinos are gonna break into your house and steal your stereo or sell your kids drugs. It tells us women are going to crazy up your life and trap you into marriage, and men are going to try to rape you. It tells us homosexuals are acceptable as comedy relief but creepy otherwise.
I know ... that just doesn't make it hurt any less.
If we hadn't had the Civil Rights Movement, I wouldn't have any hope that this situation - gays wanting rights, other people wanting to deny them said rights, people like my friend wanting to give rights but still discriminate, and nobody wanting to give an inch - will ever change. Still, right now I'm feeling about as low as I've ever felt concerning this issue, and considering that I GREW UP WITH AN OPENLY GAY FATHER and went to PUBLIC SCHOOL for many years, that's really saying something.

Your friend sounds like he's trying. He wants to be fair about laws, he's trying to be okay around your dad, and I doubt he'd ever be okay with seeing people hurt because of their orientation. Find out if he can be better, find out if he wants to be better, and if so, then maybe you or at least someone can help him over this problem.
It was really SAD, watching a good friend of mine finally admit that when they get down to their core, they think that gay marriage is WRONG. He KNOWS that gays can love each other. He KNOWS that his marriage will not be less if gays can marry. He WANTS everyone to be equal and have the same rights. He just doesn't want gay marriage to be called marriage.
As opposed to a large part of the 'no gay marriage' crowd, he actually proposed a PLAN: you get married by a church, then go to the state and get a civil union if you're straight; if you're gay you get married by a Jusitice of the Peace, then go to the state and pick up the same certificate that a straight couple will. You just aren't labled 'MARRIED.'
I think that's crap, but at least he's for equal rights for all. That's more than a bunch of the other people out there. It really disturbs me to have learned that while there are people out there who want to deny gays the right to marry, adopt, etc, there are also people out there like this friend of mine, who want to grant every right as a straight couple ... but just not call it 'marriage.'

My other friend (the one who's on my side about this stuff) had a lot of great stuff to say, including comparing this friend's feelings to our feelings about spiders. He's comfortable around spiders, we're really not. We're comfortable around gays, he's really not. (It sounded better when she said it.)

Still, that doesn't make it ok. It's still very not-ok. As I told him as my friend and I left - while I was sobbing and generally blue-screening - believing something that evokes THAT kind of response in a person (re: my emotional collapse, which is NEVER a pretty sight, let me assure you) is just not right.
Right-wing Evangelicals can rail and scream about how gays cause hurricanes and are pedophiles, but all they spew is FEAR. Irrational, stupid, FEAR.
And it makes me cry, because I guess deep-down, I PITY these people for being so horribly, horribly blind.
Guess that makes me more Christian than they are.
Ironic, innit?

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*tons of hugs* Related to what happened to you, I both love and hate homophobes who use bible quotes to excuse themselves. Love because it's so obvious that Jesus would never say "I love the lepers, prostitutes and taxmen but the gays can go to hell" and hate because they're so set in their stupid beliefs that its impossible to change their minds. :(

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*huggles you back* Thank you, again.

The worst of it is, this guy isn't even standing by the Bible, like other yahoos out there. He's this perfectly reasonable, great, funny, nice guy in every other respect. It's like someone threw pepper into a pancake: doesn't make sense.

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dicaxscriptor.livejournal.com

Ohh, I'm so sorry. *massive hugs* I don't know what to say except that I know a few people who eventually realized that their views on GLBT rights were wrong. Hopefully your friend becomes one of these people. I've met so many people who seem nice and then for some reason they turn out to be homophobic. And it DOESN'T compute. It doesn't really make sense.

DDD: *hugs again*

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Thank you for the hugs. *hugs you back* Thank you very, very much.

I don't know what to say except that I know a few people who eventually realized that their views on GLBT rights were wrong.
That's the thing, though. In the case of granting equal rights, HE'S ON EXACTLY THE SAME PAGE AS ME. But he just CAN'T agree with calling a man and a man or a woman and a woman 'married.'

I've met so many people who seem nice and then for some reason they turn out to be homophobic. And it DOESN'T compute. It doesn't really make sense.
Still blue-screening over here.

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dicaxscriptor.livejournal.com

No problem :)

And awww, that really sucks. I mean, at least he isn't completely against giving gay people rights at all. But I know that his refusal to call a homosexual couple 'married' can really grate. He sounds exactly like my parents (which, uh, is why gay rights is a banned discussion topic in this house. I was, shall we say, displeased to find out their true feelings.) - it's hard to call people like that a bigot, because they're genuinely nice but they just don't *see* that it's *wrong* to deny gay couples the privilege of that one important word.

*another hug*

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*hugs you again* Again, thank you. Everyone's making some really good points here and really are making me feel better. Well, as in, I'm not on the verge of tears every five seconds anymore and can actually think about this.

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D:

I hate it when otherwise really cool people turn out to be closed-minded.

I've got a (supposedly) homophobic friend, too. My ex had a gay friend. This made going to the movies as a group awkward...

): I hope things get better. Maybe it'll just be the one subject you can't discuss with him. Which still sucks, but...

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): I hope things get better. Maybe it'll just be the one subject you can't discuss with him. Which still sucks, but...
Yeah, I know what you mean. *hugs* Thank you.

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I know your pain. When I went through high school, I was friends with an incredibly infuriating boy, who was nonetheless extreme fun to talk with, if only because he could actually keep up with my sheer, undiluted craziness. He was absurdly right wing. I border on communism.
Understandably, we tended to leave politics alone.
You can still be friends with him. Like pyrocrastinator says, just stay away from that subject.
I mean, the old adage about how your best friend is gay - 'How have they changed?' - it applies here, too. He's the same guy you were friends with. It's just another aspect of his personality, something you'll have to deal with and delicately avoid.
If it does come up in conversation, then you have to ask yourself which is more important - still being his friend, or being right?
It's not fair but, then again, neither's life. You can explain to him your reasoning, and you can try and make him understand why he's wrong, but he's himself. He was himself long before you came along, and he'll be himself long after you leave. It's just something you'll have to deal with.

I'm sorry, this wasn't a particularly comforting response, but I felt that, since you've had several people comfort you, you really needed advice more than comfort.

But here. Have a hug anyway.
*hug*

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That ... actually does help. A LOT.
*hugs you* You're gonna be an awesome addition to the team. *friends you*

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Thank you! Always glad to help!

Now I just need to try and write that bloody second chapter of the crossover...damn Linkara. Being all freaked out and refusing to have subtext with hot Firefly characters...*grumble grumble grumble*

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I eagerly await the THIRD chapter. (You writing fiend, you'll make our heads explode at this rate!)

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I know that you posted this forever ago (about the same time since we last spoke) but I've been thinking about this forever since I first read it so I've come back to make a comment (I hope it doesn't stir anything up.

I get what you mean about the blue screen - I love my Nan (Grandmother) she's the most awsome women she was in the RAF she's had cancer and just about every disease thats possible to get and even at 70 and just out of hospital she still babysits. She taught me how to knit and looked after me while I was a child, she's no nonsense. She's also horrendously racist, especially to the Japanese. It's so horrible because it's an age thing and everytime she says something I sort of have to sit there and not say anything which kills me. So it's entirely possible to get nice people with prejudice (but it does still make my mind boggle a bit)

But I don't know if I remember this right but I seem to remember you saying that you fancied a girl? Well I've recently found out that I'm bisexual leaning towards lesbian at the moment. Which is kind of a big thing for me because it's taken me about ten years to figure it out. The problem is that my parents aren't all that understanding about homosexuality.

I mean they're not mega christian burn in hell kind of people but more if there's any gay kissing or possiblity they look away because they don't want to look and they make jokes sometimes such - when I told them that Ben and Jerry had renamed thier chubby hubby icecream hubby hubby in recognition/celebration to the fact that Virginia( I think somewhere) had finally dissolved Prop 8 and my dad said 'Oh Ben and Jerry is that short for Benjamina and Jerry' which to me is wrong. Just because it implies that either one) they are a gay but ones a woman (if you get what I mean and 2 only gay couples support gay rights.

Theres other examples but you get my point, the fact of the matter is I'm never ever going to feel comfortable enough to come out to them, and when I do it is going to be so awkward and there's always going to be the knowledge that on some level they are going to think what I'm doing is wrong. Plus I'm going to be remembered forever as 'You know the gay one.

So basically my tl;dr post is basically saying three things 1) People sometimes don't realise when they're talking bs
2) I get personally why it hurts to have some one reject a core part of you and I get especially why it upset you so much because he insulted your dad in a way and marginalised your own family.
3) You are lucky to have a dad and your fathers parter that aren't prejudice and are strong enough to stand up against this prejudice.

Basically you and your family rocks. And I hope that you feel better now especially considering I just brought this all back up with something I'm not sure is relevant.

Plus it's a step in the right direction that even though your friend is uncomfortable (no doubt from his upbringing and what his parents told him) and he still refuses marriage he is at least willing to listen and possibly in time he will see that love is love is love.

Also I don't know if I said this I'm having rl from hell but the Doctor Who story you wrote me for christmas rocked on so many levels and I have it saved :D

xx

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